When I am coaching, I always stress the importance of asking. It is an age-old concept that is recorded in the Bible, which in my view gives the best all-round instruction for life. Asking for what we want is the key to getting the results and the outcomes we are seeking.
In Matthew 7:7-8, it states “Ask and it shall be given to you; seek and you shall find; knock, and it shall be opened to you.” In my coaching, I find that people are afraid to ask for many reasons. Among them is (and these reasons are not exclusive) self-exposure, fear, lack of confidence, feeling stupid, pride, lack of faith, self-limiting beliefs and early childhood programming.
Whatever it is that stops us from asking, it is an truism that only those who are able to ask get what they want. It is taking action and not being afraid to hear the word ‘NO’, but even if people say ‘NO’, we must have the courage to persevere and ask until we get a ‘YES’.
Einstein said “I am thankful to all those who said ‘NO’ because of them I did it myself”. Doing it for you is what gives the greatest pleasure and sense of achievement. My way of asking is first to go to God in a prayerful attitude and tell him what I need. I am confident that he will give me the impetus to take action steps to find the people who will say ‘Yes’. This, I have proven beyond all doubt, is part of my success story.
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